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We've traded mail and talked on the phone and things are going really well!! What do I do when we meet??

First off, calm down. I've been through this and talked to others who've been through it, and the first, most important thing to remember is, don't go building up big hopes and dreams until you meet!

Until you actually meet someone, it's very easy to build up big fantasies in your head about how the person looks, stands, walks, etc. You can't help doing just a little of this, but try not to, and keep in mind that what you do visualize will probably be very different from reality.
 
Examples of not creating subtle pressure is NOT giving her compliments- she knows those compliments usually mean you want something. Also, NOT physically leaning in toward her all the time as if her every word was divine.) This means that you are not needy and don’t need to resort to these “pressure” methods, since you have plenty of other women and so are laid back.

3. Hitting it off in conversation with other women around you.
4. Instead of trying so hard to get along, playfully accuse them of doing naughty things. This shows you don’t need to impress them, and is funny too.
5. Letting women know that you know their games- this tells women you must have been with a lot of women in order to know.
6. Not tolerating the slightest iota of disrespect, while at the same time not getting emotional about it. This shows a woman that you are used to getting respect and that you have no need to keep her around if she doesn’t meet your standards.

 
This is where you get the myth that jerks succeed best with women, because they are so indifferent (or even cruel) and thus clearly not trying.

And jerks do yield SOME results with this approach. They are exhibiting at least one crucial component of being cool: Not trying so hard. And (in this culture) that conveys self-worth, since women interpret the lack of effort to imply that he must have value,- and that he is so secure with that knowledge he doesn’t have to try hard to get women. As if women already know that he is valuable, that it’s obvious.

But let me tell you something:
A jerk with a boring personality will not get NEARLY as far with women as a guy who both doesn’t kiss up AND who ALSO has an EXCITING personality, a PLAYFUL personality, or any other DEEPLY INTERESTING personality. And you don’t have to be a jerk to not KISS UP to a woman as if you were inferior.

So how do you convey massive intrinsic value without making it look like you are trying?

The reasons for all this are beyond the scope of this message, but the POINT is that if you ENCOURAGE someone to take advantage of you...THEY WILL.

And let me tell you something: It's IMPOSSIBLE to feel attraction to someone you feel is INFERIOR.

However, it's VERY POSSIBLE to accept the free gifts, dinners, and general worship from someone who believes you are *special*. Of course, the irony is that the MORE free gifts, dinners, and general butt-kissing behavior that a woman receives, the MORE INFERIOR she will believe the man is, and hence she will feel even LESS attraction toward him.

Let's all nod in silent agreement if you've ever been there.

So how does this translate into real life, into your everyday situations with women? The first thing I want you to do is think about how BOMBARDED attractive women are with butt-kissers. Women are ABSOLUTE EXPERTS at detecting THE TINIEST SHRED OF BUTT-KISSING BEHAVIOR.

If you don't have the habit of smiling at women, then start practicing until it becomes a natural reaction. May I suggest this to help you: When someone takes your picture you have a natural reaction to smile for the camera. Well, do the same thing when a woman looks at you. Pretend in your mind's eye that she is taking your picture. This little mental exercise can work wonders in helping you to attract single women!